30 days: Change your habits, Change your life

if you
are not part of the problem, then you also can’t be a part of the
solution.
Or, in other words, if the problem is caused by the outside,
the solution is also on the outside. If you’re coming in late to work
because of “traffic”, what has to happen so that you can get to work
on time? Traffic has to disappear magically! Because as long as
there is traffic, you will always be late. Or you can act like a
protagonist and leave home on time. Then it depends on you.
So once again: even if you don’t have control over the stimuli that
environment sends you continuously, you have the liberty to choose
your behavior in facing the situation.
The person with a “victim mentality” only reacts, is always innocent,
and constantly blames others for his or her life situation, while using
the past as justification and putting their hopes on a future which will
miraculously bring solutions to problems or a change in others who
are causing the troubles.
The protagonist knows that he or she is responsible, chooses
adequate behavior and holds himself accountable. He uses the past
as a valuable experience from which to learn, lives in the present
where he sees constant opportunities for change, and decides and
goes after his future goals. The most important question is: “Who will
you choose to be—by your actions—when life presents you with
these circumstances?”
Gandhi said it very nicely: “They can’t take away our self-respect if
we don’t give it to them.”
Ask yourself the following questions:
Who are you blaming for your life situation right now? (Your partner?
Your boss? Your parents? Your friends?)

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What would happen if you stopped blaming the others for what
happens to you in your life?
What would happen if you would stop being a victim of the
circumstances?
Is it comfortable for you being the victim?
What benefits does it have for you to be a victim?
What would happen if you stopped suffering in your life and took the
decision to change it?
What would you change?
Where could you start?
How would you start?
Action Step:
Write down 5 things that you can do in the coming week to start
changing the course and start taking charge of your life.

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4
Choices and decisions
Once you make a decision, the universe
conspires to make it happen.
—RALPH WALDO EMERSON
Maybe you have heard that your life is the result of the decisions you
made. How do you feel about that? Is this true for you? It’s important
that from now on, you are aware of the power you have over your life
by making decisions!
Every decision, every choice has an important influence on your life.
In fact, your life is a direct result of the choices and decisions you
made in the past and every choice carries a consequence. Start
making better choices.