30 days: Change your habits, Change your life

Your Attitude is crucial for your happiness
! It can change your
way of seeing things dramatically and also your way of facing them.
You will suffer less in life if you accept the rules of the game. Life is
made up of laughter and tears, light and shadow. You have to accept
the bad moments by changing your way of looking at them.
Everything that happens to you is a challenge and an opportunity at
the same time.
Look at the positive side of things in life, even in the worst
situations. There is something good hidden in every bad—although
sometimes, it might take some time to discover it.
I’ll tell you again: it’s not what happens in your life that’s important;
it’s how you respond to what happens to you that makes your life!
Life is a chain of moments—some happy, some sad—and it depends
on you to make the best of each and every one of those moments.
Did your wife leave you? So will you be unhappy forever or will you
go out and meet new people? Losing your job might open new
doors.
Many years ago all of the success teachers and positive thinkers
described it this way: “If life gives you a lemon, add sugar to it, and
make lemonade out of it”. Younger readers might say that “If life
gives you a lemon, ask for some salt and Tequila”. You get the point,
don’t you?

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For example, some healthy attitudes are:
• Allow yourself to make mistakes and learn from them.
• Admit that there are things you don’t know.
• Dare asking for help and let other people help you.
• Differentiate between what you have done in your life until now and
what you want to do or better still, will do from now on!
Action Step:
Think of a negative situation and turn it around.

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8
Perspective is everything
The optimist sees the donut,
the pessimist sees the hole.
—OSCAR WILDE
A pessimist is somebody who complains about
the noise when opportunity knocks.
—OSCAR WILDE
William Shakespeare said, “There is nothing either good or bad, but
thinking makes it so.” Put things into perspective! The closer you are
to the problem and the more in front of it, the less you see. Step
back and get a more global view of it. Understand how you feel
faced with the problem and evaluate the real importance of it. Even
seeing the problem as a challenge will be helpful! Every negative
experience in your life has something good in it—search for it! If you
get into the habit of always searching for the good in every situation,
you will change the quality of your life drastically.
Experiences themselves are neutral until we start to give them
meaning. Your vision of the world and your perspective “decide” if
something is “good” or “bad”. What may be a great tragedy to you
could be a wake-up call for me to take my life into my hands and
thrive. In coaching, we use what is called “Reframing” to change the
perspective that a client has of an event. One of my favorites is
changing “Failure” to “Feedback” or “Learning experience”.
How do you feel if you say,