While we’re born curious, experts say we can relearn the trait. Here are
eight habits of people who’ve retained their sense of curiosity:
1. THEY LISTEN WITHOUT JUDGMENT.
Most of us size up and make assumptions as we listen to others. Curious
people,
on the other hand, have no hidden agenda, says Taberner. They seek to
understand the perspectives of others, and are
willing to sit in ambiguity, open
and curious without being invested in the outcome.
“Curious people are non-blaming, non-shaming, and supportive,
working
together, focused on exploring options to find the best solution, one that supports
collaboration and leads to innovation,” she says.
2. THEY ASK LOTS OF QUESTIONS.
Curious people ask questions that start with “how,” “what,” “when,”
“where” and “why,” says Taberner.
“They stay away from questions that can be answered with a yes or no,” she
says. “This creates openness for the person who is being asked, and for the
person who is asking.”
3. THEY SEEK SURPRISE.
Many of us have a love/hate relationship with surprise,
says Tania Luna,
coauthor of Surprise: Embrace the Unpredictable and Engineer the Unexpected.
“When we have too much surprise, we experience anxiety, but when we don’t
have enough, we get bored and disengaged,” she says. “We
feel most
comfortable when things are certain, but we feel most alive when they’re not.”
We feel most comfortable when things are certain, but we feel most alive
when they’re not.
Curious people welcome surprise in their lives. They try new foods, talk to
a stranger, or ask a question they’ve never asked before. “Welcoming surprise is
just asking yourself, ‘How alive do I want to feel?’” Luna says.
4. THEY’RE FULLY PRESENT.
Curious people turn off their phones and focus on conversations, says
Taberner.
“It means not cooking dinner
while talking to your families,” she says. “If
you’re multitasking, you’re not creating space to be curious.”
5. THEY’RE WILLING TO BE WRONG.
The ability to shelve a sense of being right in favor of being open to the
insights and opinions of others is a trait of curious people, says Sue Heilbronner,
cofounder and CEO of MergeLane, an accelerator program that focus on female-
run companies.
THEY MAKE TIME FOR CURIOSITY.
Heilbronner advises leaders to take one day a month to think of scenarios
that are three years in the future, to question all of their major assumptions, and
to wonder if they’re doing things they no longer should be doing.
“Curiosity often must
be instilled intentionally,” she says. “It comes from
intentional pauses.”
7. THEY AREN’T AFRAID TO SAY, “I DON’T KNOW.”
Curious people are always seeking new knowledge by engaging in
conversations. When asked a question, they aren’t
afraid to admit when they
don’t have an answer, says LeeAnn Renninger, coauthor of Surprise: Embrace
the Unpredictable and Engineer the Unexpected.